Counselling is a unique opportunity to have conversations and experiences you may not have in other relationships in your life. In this relationship, you can talk about, brainstorm, and experience a vast array of thoughts and feelings.
Counselling sessions can often include the following:
Expression of feelings (sometimes ones never shared before)
Celebration of victories and successes
Trying new ways of being
Getting feedback on issues and challenges
Exploring your assumptions, beliefs, and values
Being validated for where you are, as you are
Being challenged to look at yourself, your world, and your relationships in a new way
Gaining new information about a number of different topics: boundaries, how our brain and nervous system work, impacts of trauma, healthy relationships, mindfulness – to name just a few
Expansion of compassion for yourself and others
Becoming aware of patterns in life, work, and relationships
Being honoured where you are in your life journey
Learning about yourself
Learning new skills
Practicing new skills
Sharing your experiences with someone unconnected to your “regular” life (like friends and family are)
Conversations in counselling can be quite different from the ones we have with people in our daily life. Some of the things we may talk about could include:
What your goals are, and if we are meeting them
What counselling you've had in the past; what worked, what didn't
Your family of origin
What brings you joy, comfort, strength
Who in your life supports you in coming to counselling
Your experiences of trauma
The benefits and the risks involved in creating change
Where, and how, you learned about feelings
Our relationship: how you are feeling in the counselling/therapeutic relationship
Your in-the-moment felt or “somatic” experiences in your body
What does this mean?
Rather than focusing on .advice and answers, counselling is a process of discovery and creation
The goals we set are yours!. I will give information and support you in their clarification, but this is your work.
The work can be hard. I've always thought that if it were easy, you wouldn't be here in my office!
Knowing why something has happened/is the way it is/why a dynamic in your life exists can be helpful, but this knowing will not automatically create change. Learning more, taking risks, and connecting with people help make these changes happen.
Some days the work is especially hard. I believe folks who come to counselling are some of the most courageous out there; it can feel like a tremendous risk to do this work and there may be hard days, but the goal in the end is always to feel better about yourself, circumstances, and choices in life going forward. This healing is often made possible by safely-paced exploration of our struggles.
I am always happy to chat about anything you read on this website. If you have questions, please feel free to contact me.